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We've reached the halfway point in the Gender Unicorn series! We've gone over Gender Identity, which is a mental state, and Gender Expression, which is choice in self-presentation. Today's topic is Sex Assigned at Birth, which is a physical state. There are three categories for this physical state: female, male, and intersex/other. Let's start with the definition of the most commonly known sexes. Female: a   person   bearing   two   X   chromosomes   in   the   cell   nuclei   and   normally  having   a   vagina,   a   uterus   and   ovaries,   and   developing   at   puberty   a  relatively   rounded   body   and   enlarged   breasts,   and   retaining   a  beard-less   face;   a   girl   or   woman. Male: a   person   bearing   an   X   and   Y   chro...

I don't know what I'm writing. I don't know why they'd care. My mind is in a million places And not one of them is here. Hungry Stressed Cold Perplexed I don't know what I'm writing, Feels like I'm writing laps. I'm hitting walls and pitfalls, Can't turn on the tap. Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest I don't know what I'm writing But the why never changed. Because if I quite the writing, My mind becomes deranged.

I'm one of those people who is pretty organized at work and adequately organized digitally. I'll make spreadsheets and to do lists and optimize workflow processes and get apps specifically for work scheduling. The rest of my life is pretty cluttered and messy and generally has a level of quiet chaos at all times. I can't get my laundry done on time to save my life. My bed is never made. My poor car is only cleaned when I know people will be in it. I'm not even sure what's in my purse right now. Thankfully I'll get occasional bursts of motivation to take care of these typically untidy places. ...Usually it's about when I haven't seen my bedroom floor for a few days. Here's the thing though. No matter how much constructive criticism or encouragement to clean I get... I'm never going to care about keeping my whole life immaculate as much as I "should." My energy is better spent elsewhere 90% of the time. (That other 10% falls i...

Welcome to part two of the Gender Unicorn series! To recap, this is the Gender Unicorn: www.transstudent.org /gender The Gender Unicorn helps explain the differences between gender identity, gender expression, sex, physical attraction, and romantic attraction and the scales upon which those things exist. I'm here to clear up some of the terminology. Today's phrase of the day is "gender expression." This one isn't really complicated. Gender expression is the way a person conveys their gender identity to the world through their appearance and behavior. The three arrows represent the scales of femininity, masculinity, or otherness a person may exist on when expressing their gender identity. They could be at the beginning of the arrow, representing little or no expression of those traditional, socially defined traits. They could be in the middle, representing some or moderate expression. Or they could go to the far right, representing a great deal...

Polyamory:  The practice of engaging in multiple sexual relationships with the consent of all the people involved.  - Oxford Living Dictionaries There are posts in certain corners of the internet discussing the misconceptions of polyamory. Now, I haven't been poly for a very long time, but I've seen a few misconceptions pop up often enough in those posts and others discussing polyamory (in various lights) that I'd still like to give my two cents on them.  Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of things people are generally incorrect on about the practice, but these three are the big ones. Misconception 1: Polyamory is cheating I'm genuinely unsure how this myth has such a strong following other than the idea that people can't be bothered to read an entire 16 word dictionary definition all the way to the end.  Yes, a poly person tends to be (but isn't always) involved in more than one relationship. However, cheating at its core means deception and...

Two people are walking the streets of their neighborhood. Lucy is walking her new dog, and Dave is out for his evening stroll. "Hey, Dave!" "Hi, Luce! Is that the new pup? She's sure a beauty!" "It's a he, actually," Lucy corrects, smiling. "His name is Jack. And aren't his markings cute? I lo--" "No, no," Dave interrupts. "That's definitely a girl dog. Jack must be short for Jacqueline. I know a lady when I see one. ...But just to be safe, let me see her parts." I could go on, but isn't that ridiculous enough? No one questions a dog owner when they correct someone on their dog's pronouns or assumption of sex. They assume, 'Oh, they know the dog better than me. Obviously they're right.' And then they usually apologize, correct themselves, and use the right name and pronoun from that moment forward. Now, I think it's safe to say a human being knows themselves even better than a ...